Comparisons.
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One of the things that can hurt us emotionally,
COMPARISON.
"You know, A is better than you in fixing things."
"B is prettier than you."
"C got more As than you."
And the list goes on.....
Okay, some people think, by comparing other people, and telling it on their faces,
You can encourage them to be better.
Yes, your're right.
A simple, small comparison can urge that person to be better.
To do better.
But, when the comparisons get too much,
It's where it went wrong.
For an example,
Kau compare adik kau, dengan budak lain,
Sama umur dgn dia.
"Adik, kakak tgk kawan awak tu hensem semacam je. Hensem dari awak hiks."
"Adik, takdi dkt temu murni cikgu duk puji2 kawan awak tu sebab dia bijak."
"Kawan awak tu dpt 8 A? Wow awak dpt 7 je kan?"
"Adik, kenapa adik tak suka membaca mcm budak tu?"
"Adik, kenapa awak.... blah blah blah"
Okay apa agak2 adik kau rasa?
He will feel he's never good enough.
Never clever enough.
Never handsome enough.
Never enough.
No matter what he did, it's never enough.
At the end, adik kau punya self-esteem and self -confidence akan jadi low.
Dia takkan rasa nak yakin dekat diri sendiri.
Dia takkan rasa dia boleh buat.
You destruct him.
He injured, emotionally.
Try lah.
Try untuk encourage adik kau dengan cara lain.
Bukan dengan cara negative camni.
Gunakan pujian.
"Adik, hebat lah dpt math A!" *smbil tepuk belakang dia.
"Adik, sedapnya awak mengaji Quran!" *sambil sapu kepala dia.
"Adik, kakak bangga ada adik cam awak. Awak tak join budak2 hisap rokok."
Nampak mcm simple kan?
Nampak mcm takde ape pun akan jadi dgn ayat2 kau tu.
But trust me.
I've been there.
A word of praise encourage me better than a mountain of comparisons.
Don't compare too much.
Because 'too much' can make them feel bad.
Because they feel they just can't never be good enough.
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